"Today, 17 days after her telling me that Brian served her with divorce papers & filling me in with so much that happened since they got married -- I am still reeling. I had NO idea. She told us nothing. I always felt she was protecting him -- but I thought it was just from "little stuff" -- nothing so devastating & humiliating as what he has put her through. I honor her courage, persistence, devotion, love, & loyalty & her clear clear vision & desire to help another human being. I haven't had a clue, however, all this time, as to the horrendous struggle that has been taking place. Not only was this an incredibly negative situation, she received no support from his family, as they apparently blamed it on "relationship problems" & were unwilling to deal with their son on a deeper level. Michelle, incredible as it still is to me, was always supportive -- 100% -- & only said good things about him. That's why this has all been such a shock to all of us."My mom didn't want to tell her family and closest friends that she was an abused woman--just like so many other victims of domestic violence do.
To all of you who hear Angie telling you that I'm lying, that she's not abused or mistreated like I previously described in detail, I hope you will consider that she's trying to be being a devoted wife and mother like my mom was. Maybe she feels humiliated like my mom must have been; not wanting her beloved friends and family to view her with pity. Whatever the reason, I'm not lying about the way I saw her treated almost daily in my dad's house.
One of my dad's favorite stories he'd tell my sisters and me after their divorce was that throughout their marriage, she (my mom) was "always talking horribly about" him behind his back every chance she got. Knowing the kind of woman our mom was, coupled with the fact that her closest family and friends had no clue about the way he was abusing her, we knew his story wasn't true.
For those of you who knew my mom and were not aware of what was going on (both during their marriage and after), please leave a comment below about how little she told you, as evidence to those who don't personally know my mom. If you choose to comment anonymously, please state some kind of association with her (co-worker, student, neighbor, friend, family, community member, etc.). Thank you.