tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5855554040432727293.post6569520909646735757..comments2024-01-03T01:23:47.702-07:00Comments on Support the Wolferts Sisters: Random Memory #7: My BrasBrittanyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15225974042862247110noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5855554040432727293.post-63853752907239042352014-12-19T15:00:24.064-07:002014-12-19T15:00:24.064-07:00I don't think she has had anyone separate her ...I don't think she has had anyone separate her and show how she has been in an abusive relationship. Sydney kept saving her papers on 'signs of abuse in relationships' from her junior high health class, but she never gave them to Angie. I think if Angie is questioning if my dad is abusive, he continues to silence her with his manipulative tactics and making her feel unstable without him.<br />I really appreciate your comments on how my sisters and I feel about Angie. We do love her, and we don't want her hurt. We don't want her to end up trapped ten or twenty years down the road, having to waste her life gaining her strength back.Brittanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15225974042862247110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5855554040432727293.post-7551250921962606202014-12-19T14:51:36.334-07:002014-12-19T14:51:36.334-07:00I hope she is strong enough to realize that she ha...I hope she is strong enough to realize that she has control over her life. Ever since they were married, I watched her stress over the control he placed on her. It is her first marriage; all my dad had to repeatedly say was "this is how a marriage is supposed to be" and she'd believe him. The worse he got, the stronger she got, the longer and more painful his verbal attacks became. They would last hours, and leave her defeated and questioning herself. That was how he wanted it.<br />It makes me seriously wonder what he is saying and/or doing to her now to keep her by his side. Brittanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15225974042862247110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5855554040432727293.post-53781193017867927322014-12-19T14:49:17.811-07:002014-12-19T14:49:17.811-07:00That is just WRONG. :(That is just WRONG. :(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5855554040432727293.post-65979243095773353922014-12-19T14:47:02.229-07:002014-12-19T14:47:02.229-07:00She didn't say much. When he told her to go ge...She didn't say much. When he told her to go get her bra to compare, she did it without question. It got to a point where it didn't matter how uncomfortable, scared, or upset I was with something my dad said or did--she would side with him.<br />Brittanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15225974042862247110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5855554040432727293.post-36310174575009991162014-12-19T14:45:02.106-07:002014-12-19T14:45:02.106-07:00Thank you so much. I was writing a response what I...Thank you so much. I was writing a response what I realized that your comment reminded me of the newest post: http://wolfertssisters.blogspot.com/2014/12/custody-evaluators-report_19.html<br />The system is flawed, period. Brittanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15225974042862247110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5855554040432727293.post-74731142006111542802014-12-19T14:25:47.447-07:002014-12-19T14:25:47.447-07:00I'm going to. It's really difficult to rec...I'm going to. It's really difficult to recount the memories that I wish I couldn't remember. But not only do people deserve to know the truth--my sisters deserve to have their home life exposed for their own safety.Brittanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15225974042862247110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5855554040432727293.post-5411918054658567302014-12-07T23:43:02.769-07:002014-12-07T23:43:02.769-07:00I agree with Lisa's comment and the others abo...I agree with Lisa's comment and the others above. My GOODNESS. If my dad touched one of our bras he'd be like, "Omg... so sorry!!" Angie needs to separate herself and she will see how she is being harmed. The fact that these young girls are saying "WE LOVE OUR STEP MOM... we don't want her hurt..." is so unusual that it makes a random reader like me say... wow... they were truly abused. Most kids would say, "to hell with you and your new wife." These girls are begging someone to help their step mom and little sister. Amazing. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5855554040432727293.post-80984438947129517552014-12-07T21:24:52.407-07:002014-12-07T21:24:52.407-07:00I agree with Anonymous writing about healthy men n...I agree with Anonymous writing about healthy men not wanting to be involved in the bra choices of their daughters. I especially agree with your suggestion that Angie could be receiving very real threats by Brian Wolferts which sounds exactly like what a person as controlling and abusive as we have seen him described here might do. How scary. I hope Angie gets her baby and stands up for truth and right immediately. Lisa Soderlundhttp://www.lisasoderlund.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5855554040432727293.post-80415469859116312512014-12-07T18:49:55.933-07:002014-12-07T18:49:55.933-07:00Healthy men don't like to think about their da...Healthy men don't like to think about their daughters wearing bras because that means they are growing up. They certainly don't obsess over what kind they wear and discuss such intimate and inappropriate details with them. They leave this to the mother/mother figures. How did Angie respond? I wish she would speak up, stand up, something. With all your advocating she could keep him from taking Abby from her, which I'm sure is the threat he uses to keep her in compliance. A threat with some valid fear as he took you all from your mother. It's okay if your mom wasn't perfect. No parent is. But he is scarily evil and disturbed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5855554040432727293.post-32443192944101206702014-12-07T16:34:44.761-07:002014-12-07T16:34:44.761-07:00The catch 22 many people don’t realize. I had an ...The catch 22 many people don’t realize. I had an interesting conversation today with someone who has spent a lot of time in the courts. They said what people don’t understand is the courts quite often will side with the parent who they think will be more supportive of a relationship with both parents. It appears your mother wanted him to have supervised visits “after” she had spoke with Dr. Roby and he said your father (Brian Wolferts) had never completed the sex therapy and that the “CHILDREN COULD BE AT GREAT RISK” (due to Brian Wolferts inability to sexually differentiate between ages)- ( affidavit of Dr CY Roby 26 March 2008 – under the Documents tab). It appears from reading the “Verified Petition to Modify the Divorce Decree- 27 March 2008 (also under documents tab). That she was just trying to truly protect her children and didn’t realize what asking for this could cause. What is a mother supposed to do, especially when her children scream and cry about going with their father and knowing he is abusive and could be a risk to them. What a messed up system we have. Not being able to provide evidence because you can’t keep up with all your fees to professionals. There are good and bad people everywhere , including the courts, and you will find money can influence many things at the expense of innocent victims. It is all to common. Good luck, my prayers are with you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5855554040432727293.post-20707769405798117492014-12-06T21:20:54.025-07:002014-12-06T21:20:54.025-07:00Absolutely inappropriate. He knew what he was sayi...Absolutely inappropriate. He knew what he was saying... to tell a young girl she must wear bras similar to his new wife's bras... he wanted to see more of something. Your intuition told you that. How interesting that your spirit and intuition told you his intentions weren't pure in giving you bra advice. I hope you keep sharing your memories here so that people can see the level of discomfort that is felt in that home. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com