This is the man that the judge went out of his way to send my sisters to without giving them or me a chance to testify about his abuse. This post contains mature material and I only advise adults 18 and older to continue. The following list contains things my dad has admitted to or been found by authorities to have done up to 2011. I wrote about my sisters and I in third person, in continuation with the direct quotes from therapists. I apologize for the length of this list. It's so long, yet there is so much more that could have been added. (Wouldn't it be nice if none of these applied instead of ALL of them applying to my dad.)
Brian Wolferts:
- Admitted in a polygraph to a "history of sexual contact with a child".
- Admitted in a polygraph to exposing himself to two young girls when he was 23 (and already married).
- Admitted to masturbating "years later" to thoughts of the older girl (age 11 or 12) as the younger girl (age 6 or 7).
- Was also seen by psychosexual therapist Dr. Ririe who stated "the nature of the potential risk to [Brian's] children being very well emphasized to all of the parties involved, the risk would be considered much lower for his daughters in this situation. Part of this will be as the result of the increased level of vigilance he and others will engage in as well as the fact that his daughters have been well educated and informed on how to potentially report and address any areas of discomfort and in fact have shown a willingness to do so..."
- Has never wanted his daughters to speak to any judge, filing multiple times to deny them testifying about his abuse.
- Was diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder.
- Was diagnosed with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.
- Was diagnosed with Personality Disorder NOS (dependent features).
- Took Zyprexa (a drug for bipolar disorder or schizophrenia) in 2003 as a "mood stabilizer" to try to deal with his sexual addiction.
- Had 3 years of personal therapy with Dr. Randy Hyde, who then recommended he start therapy with a psychosexual therapist Dr. Roby
- voluntarily did 18 months of sexual offender therapy with Dr. Roby because he knew he needed professional help (but did not complete it).
- He lied to the court that he had completed sexual reorientation therapy which Dr. Roby refuted.
- Said to DCFS in 2004 that he had a chemical imbalance and tried 8 different prescriptions to help his condition, saying he was on Paxil for a year at one point, but it seemed to stop working.
- Said in Nov 2002 he stopped taking medications altogether.
- Held 3 month old Sydney by the ankle then threw her across the room, causing Michelle to have to run across the room to catch her before she hit the ground.
- He told DCFS when asked about this incident that "he may have been playing with her or slightly throwing her in the air and catching her" (I include this because what person admits to throwing a 3 month old baby in the air?! This could actually kill a baby that young!)
- Told DCFS that he has difficulties with himself, emotional disturbances, and felt "undeserving of love".
- Admitted to DCFS that he punched and pushed Michelle.
- Admitted to DCFS that he threw Michelle when she was 7 months pregnant. He said he shoved her, causing her to fall.
- Told DCFS the physical violence that happened happened before Brittany was born. Which means he openly admitted to domestic violence.
- Completed an anger management course, which means he had trouble managing his anger.
- Was found by DCFS in 2005 to have abused Brittany by being violent toward Michelle in front of Brittany.
- His only defense against the Domestic Abuse allegations by Michelle to DCFS were that he didn't think Brittany actually saw him push Michelle down the stairs.
- Admitted to having several "agreed upon meetings" where a girl would show him her privates in the bushes outside his apartment when he was 5, and eventually he pulled down his pants and showed the girl his erection.
- Admitted to using a foam rubber simulated vagina at a friend's house at age 13.
- Admitted his "typical" sexual fantasy is "meeting a relative stranger (woman) and disrobing in front of her and having her become aroused at the sight of my body and penis and engaging in intercourse".
- Admitted to C.Y. Roby in 2003 to having had 5 actual affairs.
- Admitted to DCFS in 2004 to "having affairs with "7 or 8" other women" which went on for approximately 5 years.
- Admitted having 30-40 online affairs by 2003 (after he had been married to Michelle for 11 years already).
- Stated to Dr. Roby that he does have a sexual problem.
- Was fired from Enrich in 2000 for a sexual harassment allegation.
- Was unemployed for much of those years thereafter, while Michelle supported him fully by building her piano lessons business.
- Throughout their marriage he did not consistently hold a job.
- Called himself a "sex addict".
- Is considered a "sexual deviant" by Dr. C.Y. Roby.
- Has trouble differentiating between ages with regard to his arousal patterns.
- Tended to "underreport his deviant arousal throughout the evaluation [penile plethysmograph], indicating a tendency to minimize his pathology."
- Did not complete the recommended sexual reorientation therapy C.Y. Roby said he needed to complete in order for his daughters to be safe with him outside unsupervised visitation.
- "Appears to have a very strong system for excusing himself for these behaviors that he has done."
- Encouraged his daughters to cut off all ties with their mother.
- Shows a pattern of difficulty with interpersonal relationships stemming at least in part from feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem.
- Was found by Dr. Roby likely to have trouble developing and maintaining long-term relationships.
- Was found to "appear to be somewhat hypersexualized."
- Showed a "tendency to take somewhat of a victim stance where he appears to say 'woe is me, I'm so bad'.
- Reported to Dr. Roby that he wasn't ever suicidal but that he has "felt at times that my family would be better off without me."
- Forced Sydney with celiac disease to eat gluten over the course of years.
- Had to be given multiple doctor notes to impress upon him the urgency of keeping Sydney gluten-free.
- Has cameras installed to monitor the perimeter of his home at all times in Utah and Kansas (Angie verified this on Dr. Phil).
- Has been unemployed much of his adult life, relying on his spouses to support him, but being highly critical of their efforts at the same time.
- Has engaged in protracted litigation tactics for years and years.
- Told DCFS that Michelle "almost broke his nose".
- Told Facebook and Dr. Phil that Michelle "broke his nose".
- In addition to the above list, on March 17th, 2016, DCFS found my dad to have been abusive to my sisters in his home!
THIS LIST PROVES WHY MY SISTERS SHOULD NOT HAVE BEEN SENT BACK TO HIM.
In addition to the above list of things he did before, my dad has fought multiple times to keep my sisters and me from speaking in court about his abuse. Can there be any doubt why a man like the one described above by therapists and investigators might wish his victims (including my sisters and I) to be unable to reveal his abuse??
This is who my sisters are afraid of. This is who I'm afraid of. I admit this hesitantly because I'm certain he probably gains satisfaction at my admission. This abuser and sexual deviant is who now has my sisters behind closed doors, secluded, isolated, alone--able to retaliate against them in any way he wants. And judging from the list above, and my memories of the abuse he often inflicted on all of us in his house, I am severely worried for my sisters. They are in mortal danger. My sisters have additional harrowing details of his abuse which they have so far been prevented by Juvenile Court Judge Bartholomew from presenting in court. My dad knows what he's done, and what they are capable of telling. Therefore, he seeks to silence them. As you can see, he has every reason to want to silence my sisters.
It is hard to come to terms with the fact that my dad is unworthy of my esteem, as I value family as the most important thing in this life. But I also know that if someone abuses you--regardless of their position in your life--they fail to earn your respect, honor, and trust. My dad is my abuser. He and his supporters continue to abuse me verbally and emotionally all over social media, and they don't care about the welfare of my sisters.
It is hard to come to terms with the fact that my dad is unworthy of my esteem, as I value family as the most important thing in this life. But I also know that if someone abuses you--regardless of their position in your life--they fail to earn your respect, honor, and trust. My dad is my abuser. He and his supporters continue to abuse me verbally and emotionally all over social media, and they don't care about the welfare of my sisters.
I beg you to help me with my exorbitant legal fees as I attempt to get the truth of his abuse to the proper authorities to protect my vulnerable sisters. The judge has tried to prevent it so far and has helped get my sisters into the custody of this deviant abuser. Please help me! Thank you so much for your continual support!
Won't someone who is a good attorney step up and look into this case and help these sweet girls......I know them, I know their mother and sister, and they are wonderful people and NOT the monsters this father is trying to make the court believe.....This is a disgrace to the justice system...Justice it is not!!!
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