On July 17, 2014, my sisters Sydney & Dani Wolferts ran away after we tried to take our dad to court for abuse. They were found on January 3, 2016. On March 17, 2016 the judge ordered for them to be sent back to Kansas. After our dad has refused and delayed many orders, we finally have trial set at the end of April 2018 to have the abuse petition heard.
My father is very similar to yours - I understand and experienced a lot of the same things as you and your sisters. He would always go into great detail about his own sexual memories with me, discuss how attractive my mother had been when they were married, and told me multiple times when I was young that I should make myself more attractive to boys, it was odd that I had not yet had sex (at twelve) and my mother was turning me into a prude.
I stopped seeing him when I was sixteen but I still worry about him coming to the house or my school (he has tried coming to school before, but fortunately I wasn't there...). Now that I've turned eighteen, I feel a lot better knowing that legally he has no power over me.
After growing up with someone like that, I believed you straight away. Your memories are clear and precise and the way you describe your father is an accurate description of a specific, predatory abuser. People DO believe you, and you WILL be supported.
Let your sisters know that it absolutely gets easier with time and age. I wish you all the very best of luck.
Your dad is the "Grand Deception" http://boz.religionnews.com/2015/05/15/a-grand-deception-the-successful-response-of-sex-offenders/
ReplyDeleteThank you for that link. It describes my ex-husband's responses exactly. I hope others will go to the site and read it.
DeleteMy father is very similar to yours - I understand and experienced a lot of the same things as you and your sisters. He would always go into great detail about his own sexual memories with me, discuss how attractive my mother had been when they were married, and told me multiple times when I was young that I should make myself more attractive to boys, it was odd that I had not yet had sex (at twelve) and my mother was turning me into a prude.
ReplyDeleteI stopped seeing him when I was sixteen but I still worry about him coming to the house or my school (he has tried coming to school before, but fortunately I wasn't there...). Now that I've turned eighteen, I feel a lot better knowing that legally he has no power over me.
After growing up with someone like that, I believed you straight away. Your memories are clear and precise and the way you describe your father is an accurate description of a specific, predatory abuser. People DO believe you, and you WILL be supported.
Let your sisters know that it absolutely gets easier with time and age. I wish you all the very best of luck.
I believe you......
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